Michael Rupp
A nagging thought I have about a trivial but very important matter
#Conversations and the #Attractiveness of the person you want to converse with have an awkward social legacy.

Regardless of what is about to follow, I am not saying that #Men have it easy while I'm simultaneously explicitly explaining why I think #Women have it difficult. This is a very #nuanced topic and I want to concentrate on what I see as #problems women have in #society that seem to definitely restrict their free will as no fault of their own.

Theirs a person I know #IRL and she has a very #attractive look about her, a #voluptuous body, #happy playful demeanor, big hair, a #pretty face, and still very #youthful. If it's not obvious, I'm an older dude way past my prime and not anything special to be around. I think the #sex roles could be reversed and most of this would still make sense with different intensities and risks/rewards. I personally know her in a very casual sense because of being in the same social circles. One of them is an annual #Halloween party open to the public. She would often show up in a common #Police #Costume or equivalent. At first glance, one might scoff at the use of #seductive looks to gain attention. Then I saw the kind of attention she got and it wasn't what she wanted or what she needed. Sure she looked good, but I couldn't help think #society kind of took away her #freedom of #choice. Her situation was as a young #SingleMother #struggling to provide for her #kids. The "loose-ends" of society rushed to her at the event trying to have what they saw, like they were looking at a commodity they could buy instead of a person desperately doing what they had to, to try for a better life. The most recent year changed how I saw her. She didn't change costumes, but she did bring her #retarded and partially #disabled uncle to the #party. The inner beauty that a person has to do that type of thing is wonderful! For the first time, she got a #smile from me instead of a #PokerFace. Her smile back seemed to #telepathically say back, "Thanks for seeing me."

She and I have never actually spoken to each other. I see her in other places and we have the occasional glance at each other that conveys, I know you are a good person. I'm pretty sure I can't talk to her because the #society around us would see a #pretty young person and a #married old guy talking and think shitty thoughts. That's something society is doing very wrong. I understand why though. Theirs a lot of people with #clandestine intentions driven by their innate desire to #procreate, and normally people are in #DumbMode when that switch is turned on. It makes me sad though that wholesome conversation can't be had between people because of what assuming people will think and later say in private to others for their own erroneous #SelfRighteous #excitement.

The same predicament holds if she was not what most of society deems as #attractive. I believe any combination could have an awful assumption put onto the scenario. Ugly girls put out and that's why he's talking to her. A young guy? He must be a child molester. An old person? He's probably trying to rob them. Poor people? He's buying drugs. Rich people? Sell out! Power to the people! Co-worker? #Sexual #harassment. (I know that's wrong because it's supposed to have a power dynamic first.) Manager to a subordinate? Definitely #Sexual#arassment.

It's been quite a number of decades that the nightly news has reinforced that the #appearance of #impropriety is enough to #convict in the court of #public #opinion. This also forces-out the ability to deliver #compassion and #understanding to a #stranger. One time I heard a guy talking about the way the #CIA or some #Law #Enforcement organization will #invade #privacy enough to get a #conviction, but if they invaded it even more, the #understanding that would come out would #exonerate them. #Voyeuristic people that see something now and report their #erroneous #assumptions to their friends later are not invading privacy enough. Partly the way our society works they have little #free #will either in their subsequent actions. They are dealing with decisions under risk. Revealing that they suspect something would cause a #fictitious #alibi to be formed if they were right, so they can't invade the privacy further. The 'better safe than sorry' rule forces them to #report the potential #transgression. Because that move would be assumed by anybody with more wisdom than a person in a sheltered existence, it takes away the #FreeWill of the person who might have acted in a way that showed an appearance of impropriety. Therein we have a classic "Mexican-Standoff". (I'm not sure why it's Mexican.) That's something society is doing very wrong.

I want to go back to the microcosm of good old whats-her-name, the attractive girl at the start of this long #MicroBlog. This failure of life outlined by game theory affects her more than me. She can't just start a conversation with any guy at random, because it's highly likely they will either think they are so #amazing that this #HotChick is coming to them, or they are so #damaged #emotionally from their past experiences that they assume something really bad is going to happen soon because their's no way an attractive person wants to have a #normal #conversation with them. Sure that's a false dichotomy, but I was talking about the most likely possibilities instead of the only #possibilities. Chances are close to zero that she can just have a person-to-person #wholesome #conversation with somebody at random and they don't think something untrue about why it's happening. That sounds fucking lonely. I'm guessing society, in general, thinks the attractive's have an easy life (because less than 1% of then are the only people that get to be in the media or a performer on stage or screen...). Sure maybe some things in life are easier. Like maybe it's easier to get free drinks at a bar, but isn't that like it being easier for a fish to get a free worm on a hook? Those drinks aren't charity, they are a hedge to bet they will obtain something they want in the future. That's something society is doing very wrong.

Too many people (men & women) in my #opinion think women have it easy. I didn't just say men have it easy! What I did imply was that it's #complicated and trouble is #trouble even if it's in a different form. Both #men & #women have their own unique #injustices they have to #suffer through. I'm #focusing on #women's #problems right now so #MRA #dudes and #dudettes can back the hell off; I've tasted your #RedPill so don't try making an #enemy of me here. Here's a recent #Podcast I heard which laid out the case for how women were #objectively #discriminated against since we were able to transmit sound electronically.

We built #electronics that #worked #wrong to the #benefit of men's #voices and acted like their's nothing we could have done about it. That's something society is doing very wrong.

If you haven't read the Tina Fey book titled Bossypants, you are missing out. Although I didn't read it, I listened to it for free using my Libby app connected to my public library. Tina reads it and unlike a lot of people who #voice their own #books, her inflection, timing, emphasis and so on is impeccable. Their's so much laugh-out-loud content that I don't know who wouldn't like it. I'm going to quote a few excerpts from it that are pertinent to this #MacroBlog entry.

Body Image

“But I think the first real change in women’s body image came when JLo turned it butt-style. That was the first time that having a large-scale situation in the back was part of mainstream American beauty. Girls wanted butts now. Men were free to admit that they had always enjoyed them. And then, what felt like moments later, boom—Beyoncé brought the leg meat. A back porch and thick muscular legs were now widely admired. And from that day forward, women embraced their diversity and realized that all shapes and sizes are beautiful. Ah ha ha. No. I’m totally messing with you. All Beyonce and JLo have done is add to the laundry list of attributes women must have to qualify as beautiful. Now every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall ass, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old boy, the arms of Michelle Obama, and doll tits. The person closest to actually achieving this look is Kim Kardashian, who, as we know, was made by Russian scientists to sabotage our athletes.”
― Tina Fey, Bossypants

Women's Defects

This was how I found out that there are an infinite number of things that can be ‘incorrect’ on a woman’s body.
― Tina Fey, Bossypants

After which she starts listing common things that in our society are like water to the fish; eyebrows too thick, eyebrows too thin, eyebrows too round, eyebrows too angular... The list seemed infinite and she barely left the upper part of the head. #WTF!!!

It's what you don't have...

Now if you’re not "hot," you are expected to work on it until you are. It’s like when you renovate a house and you’re legally required to leave just one of the original walls standing. If you don’t have a good body, you’d better starve the body you have down to a neutral shape, then bolt on some breast implants, replace your teeth, dye your skin orange, inject your lips, sew on some hair and call yourself the Playmate of the Year.
― Tina Fey, Bossypants

That's something society is doing very wrong.



I think as a world of humans we need to collectively start taking back our #FreeWill and taking chances, and instead of avoiding things with a potential upside, we go in ready to shut-down the beginnings of a potential downside. Too much of our #Culture is dictated by what #Artists & #Writers produce as their work and they produce that because that's what we are doing in society. That's not #creativity, that's a #feedback #loop! We're going to blow our amplifier! The #creative people in this world need to stop serving up #commercial #garbage and begin writing things that #struggle with finding acts of free-will, and objectively #ethical good acts.
― Fin ―
Categories: Philosophy , Society
Tedel
Too much of our #Culture is dictated by what #Artists & #Writers
By advertisers and media, I would say. Moreover, you say it yourself too:
The #creative people in this world need to stop serving up #commercial #garbage and begin writing things that #struggle with finding acts of free-will, and objectively #ethical good acts.

That’s not #creativity, that’s a #feedback #loop!
I concur, but I beg you not to blame artists. Let's point the finger to who are really responsible for this.
Michael Rupp
You should elaborate on this:
Let's point the finger to who are really responsible for this.
Michael Rupp
Fucking Ring Doorbells
So, the Mozilla Foundation has a thing where they review the ethical quality of a good or service, "*privacy not included", and the #Amazon #Ring #Doorbell made their #ShitList. Apparently people are paying between $100 & $500 USD to have their homes "protected" by the Police through Amazon's #SurveillanceCapitalism AI.

I believe the main thing they don't know they are doing is that they are giving hackers easy access to clandestinely "case my house" to find out when it would be best to come in and rob me. Their doorbells are pointing at my house, not theirs. Their doorbells may never see their own movements, but they will broadcast everybody else's. It makes me wonder if there's a way to walk past and, with a specialized electronic device, cause them to be #Bricked. I think whacking them with a hammer might be illegal, and don't think it would survive a Supreme Court challenge.

That last paragraph sounds far-fetched unless you read the Mozilla write-up (linked below) on this flawed product. Recall, Amazon doesn't make surveillance products to benefit you, they make them to benefit Amazon.

And don't expect the Cops who are keeping all the footage to not post a viral video of you stumbling up the front steps spilling two armloads of groceries onto the porch. They can and will do that. Think I'm wrong? How about the show Cops, or Live PD. Think those shows are real? Try listening to the Running From Cops #Podcast and see how maliciously manufactured they are.

And just :facepalm royally with this one:
Ring states that it does not use facial recognition technology. However, it has hired a "head of facial recognition research" at Ring Ukraine, so it may have plans to in the future.
David
Fucking Ring Doorbells
I'd rather not.
Michael Rupp
I guess that is the correct answer on more than one reading of the quoted text.
Michael Rupp
Screaming Into The Void: How Outrage Is Hijacking Our Culture, And Our Minds
[He said knowingly with a smug sense of #Outrage and #Righteous #Indignation.] The gist of this episode is that we have #Evolutionary reward systems to be outraged at a person's reprehensible actions, but that sub-system was developed with small groupings of humanoids in face-to-face interactions, not #Electronic #SocialMedia.

There are lots of things to say about this episode of the #HiddenBrain #Podcast, and I'll start with my own personal worry that I'm part of the problem. I feel like I'm posting important content that is worth people's time to think about and I'm convinced that it will lead to a better world, but...

I also have this #Hypothesis that EVERYBODY thinks they are doing the right thing for the right reasons at all times. If I scrutinize the state of affairs at the times in my past when I made regrettable mistakes, I could see how I was mistakenly doing wrong while thinking I was the hero doing the right thing, AND making the world a better or safer place! If I give a #Deplorable person's actions a charitable review, I can see how they are misguided and thought they were doing the right thing and were making the world a better place despite doing the opposite with their actions.

It seems like open-minded #Discourse with people who are #Disagreeable to your position (as opposed to you personally), is a great way to find out when your favorite idea isn't built on solid ground.

If you think you are an #Influencer somewhere on the #SurveillanceCapitalism #SocialMedia or on a #Federated system, I urge you to listen to this short and powerful podcast and reflect on yourself with unbiased scrutiny to see if you are part of the problem or part of the solution.


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Michael Rupp
Liberté, Égalité and French Fries
Damn, this #Podcast changed my opinion of #McDonalds
Typically I'm against monopolistic, centralized authority, and concentrated power as an ethical imperative. This side of the #American #Burger invasion on the world was something I would have never guessed. I'm tempted to have a #European trip adjusted so that it makes a stop there in #Marseille, #France as a central point of the trip. The whole show made this neighborhood attractive to me.


Michael Rupp
Protecting Privacy with MATH (Collab with the Census)
This is a really good video about #Privacy and Reverse Engineering #Anonymous data into revealing information. The @minutephysics host lays out some good ways to #Anonymize data. I have been personally lying about birthdays and age since decades ago. That's the main way he covers in the video.
Categories: Math , Philosophy , Politics , Society
Michael Rupp
He just did a follow-up video on the flip side of data #Privacy. It's a bit counterintuitive and I learned a tiny thing I didn't think about before.

Michael Rupp
My Platonic Romance On The Psych Ward
If you've never heard a #ModernLove #Podcast before, their #wierd, #funny, #endearing, and #aspirational. A famous person reads the story of the subjects, then later the host of the show does a tiny interview with the subject(s) of the story. This one I found exceptional. It wanders through #MentalHealth, happenstance and true enduring #love for a couple who were really in need of it. They met in a #PsychWard!!!


Categories: Love , Philosophy , Society
Michael Rupp
A systemic societal mistake prevalent in America
I'm not sure this is true throughout the world or just in pockets of society, but I know it's widespread. Here's the gist; #Girl does something nice to #Boy, boy falls madly in love with girl, girl finds it objectively #Creepy, girl treats boy badly, boy is very confused.

I assume that the source of the problem is the affectionless treatment of boys by relatives and guardians. It doesn't have to be abuse, but the #Spartan attitude of #Toughness in much of our society causes one important part of the child's life to be so empty that when a drop hits the bottom of that empty vessel it electrifies a need to get more that is overwhelming to people unprepared to fill that need.

It doesn't have to be mutually exclusive that a child learns toughness or receives ample #Affection in their life. They can easily get both. Children raised with the old, "don't coddle your child it will weaken them," delusion are raising children who won't fit into social settings well.

I wonder if the average #Utah #Mormon is immune to this problem because they are notoriously nice to each other within their familial group and #Religion.

#Love #Kindness #Relationships #Society #Outcast
Categories: Philosophy , Society
Mudflap
I wonder if the average #Utah #Mormon is immune to this problem because they are notoriously nice to each other within their familial group and #Religion.
well, this Mormon thinks it's at least possible that this is the case, but, I think in reality, Mormons are only slightly less immune to societal misnomers than other groups.

But overall, it's definitely something to think about - how we treat boys. thanks.
Michael Rupp
Not just cute, but poignant and timely...
I know #Twitter #Warning, but c'mon... This kid is very cute about delivering her sharp #Satire about #YouTUBE Contributors who are on the hamster-cash-wheel. This youthful performer is at #Vidcon2019 and is going by @PugLoca on tweeter.
Categories: Philosophy , Society , YouTUBE
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